Take the chance!
If you can see, that somebody is quite normal and may be the right person for online dating, but unfortunately you have your reasons for not considering him or her to be the right one for you, it is necessary to write some polite refusal. Invent any reason, having learned about which the person will read at once, that he or she does not suit you at all. For example, you can tell, that you really do not like smoking men (woman), or that a difference in the age is too big for you, or you would like to start online dating somebody from other age group, or that you are not ready to meet a woman (man) with children.
What for it is necessary to do it? First, it is simply necessary to be polite, and second, it will help you to analyze the one who has written to you. It is quite possible, that you ideas of him or her are wrong! I shall bring an example from one woman's personal experience:
"Once I have received the letter in which the young man informed that would be very glad to become my pen pal. At that time it was not easy for me to find a free Internet access, and I could not allow myself new "net pals". The easiest way out was to ignore this letter, but I answered and explained, that I search for my second half and I use the Internet only for this purpose. It turned out that the young man searched for his second half too, but he felt not at ease to write about it at once in the very first letter. I shall mention that it was this man who subsequently became my husband." And what would have happened if she had not answered him simply out of pure politeness?
Hopefully, this advice will help you in correspondence. Maybe it will help to those who want to find people for online dating in such a way that it will help some people to speed up a meeting, and to someone - to stop relations.
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